Category Archives: Useful Stuff

My Life Strategy

By | April 4, 2022

Focus better. One item at a time. Do not aim for what’s grand, easy or pleasing to other people. Focus on writing.Focus on paying attention to life and the present moment and let go of the rest. Dump perfection. Start small. Do things that are fun for you. Prioritize rest. Trust your instincts. And keep… Read More: My Life Strategy »

Rape

By | February 22, 2022

I was raped by a professor of mine. I don’t know how to write about it in a way that’s helpful to me and to others. Saying what happened without overwhelming shame and pain took me a decade. When life blows you off course, take what you have and what you want in your heart,… Read More: Rape »

Gift of Presence

By | January 26, 2022

I have a friend. When I write to him, in any format, my words would land in my body and return me to my heart. I feel the warmth of sea water, supporting me. The ease of our exchange feels generous and nourishing. I make mistakes. And he forgives me. He makes mistakes. And I… Read More: Gift of Presence »

Security & Risk Mix

By | September 26, 2021

What’s real to me may not be real to you. Our perceptions of reality couldn’t be further from each other. We make different meanings out of the same event. This is why we feel lonely. And being understood feels amazing. We are relational. The back and forth does something to our brain and our heart.… Read More: Security & Risk Mix »

Schedule Audit

By | September 17, 2021

Fall is near. The sudden change of colors is pointing me to examine my own rhythms. For someone who follows a loose schedule, I had a sudden curiosity of what I actually do on a random day. I have a good idea of when I am most productive during the day. I don’t know how… Read More: Schedule Audit »